What is home?

My definition is still changing.

My father (81) said – “a place where you can hang your hat and feel comfortable.” My mother (79) in Spanish said, “un sitio donde te sientes libre y en paz de ser quien eres = a place where you are free and at peace to be yourself.” I agree with both definitions, but for our family changing geographies forced us to adapt to the varying exoskeletons that surrounded us in different countries as we grew up. The bricks and mortar where our hats were hung were not as important as being together to share time and history.

However, in real estate, buyers have pretty stringent ideas on what a home should be and what a home should include. Admittedly, I did too when I bought my first (I was not unreasonable, but I knew what I wanted). On the next purchase; I hope to be much less attached to the material decisions about the home and more focused on the spaces and intimacies that could be created within.

Twelve years after brokering over 150 home sales and all the personalities that come with them, the great, the good, bad, and the ugly; it seems the majority of buyers really get caught up in the minutiae and uber specifics of the exoskeleton, material compositions and their perfection or the lack thereof. And why shouldn’t they? It’s their home their new space being purchased with their money, a reasonable expectation. But we define our understandings sometimes by the extremes we encounter. My experiences range from one to the other and change as dramatically from one client to the next. And simulataneously in one go, once upon a time, I was managing the easiest and the most challenging of buyers.

Once Upon a Time

For example: an “easy” buyer: comments such as, “this is fine; it’s all I really need, it’s good enough for the price.” <comment modified for higher standard of anonymity> HUMILITY, thank you Lord!

One of the most “challenging” of buyers: comments from buyer in conflict with the builder’s quality of work – “We are not happy. We are mistreated by this seller. We are someone, not no one, and this is an insult.” <comment modified for higher standard of anonymity> PRIDE eh?

From great humility to embarrassing pride. Opposites really. The extremes in characters are amazing to me still. I would finish with one person look up at heaven and say thank you. The next minute I would get a call from the Others and I would practice my listening and patience skills as it seems nothing would console the children. The price points don’t really matter either. I’ve had both extremes at the lowest of price points around 70K to the highest at 4.5M. And vica versa in all directions. No matter how many years in this industry; someone always surprises me with their quirks and expectations. Like all things, the most challenging make you question yourself and the easiest to work with (do the same actually). I always ask myself am I doing enough to improve their experiences? Some co-workers might say, often; I do too much. Like good public school teachers; while managing excellence in service good realtors often end up being marriage counselors, psychologists, handymen, garbage services, maids, even dog and baby sitters etc.. for their clients. It’s a never ending cycle of people centric actions and executions when caring for clients and excellence is the habit.

So what’s my point? My parents’ definitions of home, although close to my heart and mind don’t make one bit of difference to my clients in most instances. They want what they want how they want it. My point is, for me, home is where the heart is and I totally agree with Edwards and David in Elvis’ song.

“Home Is Where The Heart Is”

Home is where the heart is
And my heart is anywhere you are
Anywhere you are is home
I don’t need a mansion on a hill
That overlooks the sea
Anywhere you’re with me is home

Maybe I’m a rolling stone
Who won’t amount to much
But everything that I hold dear
Is close enough to touch

For home is where the heart is
And my heart is anywhere you are
Anywhere you are is home

Maybe I’m a rolling stone
Who won’t amount to much
But everything that I hold dear
Is close enough to touch

For home is where the heart is
And my heart is anywhere you are
Anywhere you are is home

Home, home, home, home

I just wish more buyers, especially younger buyers purchasing their first homes would relax a little and remember its not the walls or the color or texture of the walls that define us; but the experiences we share inside and outside of the walls that help shape who we are currently and could be in the future. I just needed to get that out. Have a great week!!

Gisele Waters, Ph.D.

Gisele has a zealous passion for urban city living and helping consumers make smart urban-lifestyle choices. Her multilingual and multicultural background laid the foundation for real estate sales across a remarkably diverse clientele in residential, investment and commercial real estate. As a Realtor® since 2004, a wide bandwidth of business and team management skills has been honed by working through each contract/transaction life cycle from end to end with success. These experiences in analysis, negotiation and her expertise in cognitive science lend to the understanding of her clients and their motivations at a deeper level than most. All serve as the basis for optimal relationships with clients and consensus building with principals that have conflicts of interest. Management of a diverse clientele has been strengthened by seamless adaptation to delicate challenges and unique dynamics present in all transactions. As a prior teacher and professor; Gisele leans into her nurturing and education of clients that most need a broader understanding of the real estate transaction. She also loves being inside beautiful well-built homes that create new lifestyle opportunities within the City limits.

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